Yesterday at my work I had a strange reaction from a colleague. He was having some anger behaviors which I didn’t understand. So I thought to myself I have 2 options here. To respond with the same energy or hold that person on is greatness with all the compassion I could give to him.
I must confess that it was very difficult to manage the emotions that were arising within me. I was feeling hurt. There were moments that I was even doubting about myself, thinking things like: “Probably I did something wrong here”. As time passed I realized that it wasn’t about me and that I couldn’t take the responsibility for his way of being. It tooked me some hours to let go from that emotions but in the end I did managed it successfully.
So after this situation, I came with 5 reasons, why learning to be compassionate has helped me in my professional, social and family life.
1. It Makes You a Better Person
When you learn to be compassionate, you become an overall better person. You are upset a lot less and you experience happiness more frequently. Compassionate people generally are patient and kind because they respect others under any circumstance, holding them in their Greatness.
2. You Get Along With People Better
When you’ve learned to be compassionate, it’s a lot easier to throw away the hurt when someone is upset and yells at you, or if someone is being rude. You learn to forget about your hurt and focus your energy to comfort that other person and try to understand what is the real cause of that behavior.
Eventually, these people will apologize, realize that you’re a compassionate person, and become friendlier towards you.
3. You Become a Better Friend
When you are compassionate, you can understand the type of suffering your friend goes through, and you’ll know exactly how to make them feel better (your brain will be trained to think – what would make ME feel better if I were in his shoes) and you will be able to say and do the right things to help your friend when they are hurt.
4. You Become a Better Boyfriend/Girlfriend/Father or Mother
Most, if not all, fights come from when two people go through a miscommunication. But if you are compassionate, you can understand where that person is coming from, and you can tend to their needs, and end the fight faster.
5. Gain Better Control of Your Emotions
When you’re more compassionate, you become more in control of your emotions. When someone hurts your feelings, you have the gift to understand why they said that, or why they didn’t do that, and you can readily forgive someone for it.
By readily forgiving someone, you become less angry, and you become more in peace with yourself. This helps you keep full control of your emotions, and prevents you from blowing up at others, or feeling bored all the time.